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So, of course, since the Sex, Intimacy and Staying in Love (SIS) just started, I had to have a juicy fight with my darling husband last night.

I am sure many of you are wondering about my side of the story that Jessica spoke about a few weeks back. Let me tell you what the journey was like for me.

Did you ever wonder why for such smart people we are so challenged about dieting?

Haven’t you buffet-ed enough diets to write your own diet book?

Chicken or Turkey: The deliberations of a life coach by Marnie Handel Nir My name is Marnie and I’m a life coach. It’s been ten years, two kids, one dog instead of a third kid, a column, a television treatment, a book proposal, twenty plus coaching clients and several hurricanes since first I started being trained to coach. Oh heck, that’s a bit of a lie. I’m Jewish. And, well, if you’ve ever been to New York then you no doubt know that the basic training, i.e. the ease with which I can tell you what you need to do, started way back, most likely in the crib.

You know when occasionally you find yourself bitching about how had you REALLY known that your husband was, X, oh for the sake of argument, stingy with his freaking feelings, and very much not Y, oh for the sake of a longer argument, warm and fuzzy like Grey’s Anatomy’s Dr McDreamy, you might never have married him. What’s up with that? Well, you don’t REALLY have had to excel at elementary school math to find the common denominator in your life’s lousy laundry lists, i.e.

Maybe it truly was the Demerol speaking, but in the wee hours of what I think was the night Thing One was c-sectioned from me, I wrote the most beautiful, drug-induced thank you letter to my mom with such clarity as only a good pain killer could invoke. I got it. I thanked my mom for tolerating me, heck, I spoke for all four siblings, for taking on a payless and if-drugless thankless job. Got what, you ask? I got the joke – the mother load of them all, really. Ready? Lean on the stair master-you-should-be-on’s handles, this one is a shocker.

When you stop to think about it...
What is really running your life?

We humans generally avoid saying how we really feel to each other because we think we already know what the other person will think, say or how they will react and it's usually bad. We collect evidence to support our theories and then we chat about it with other people to prove our points. We could call this creating a conspiracy. Chatting in our heads and collecting evidence creates an imaginary war of "us against them.” The real battle is to stop talking to yourself & others and have the courage to tell your truth to the person who really ought to hear it.