We are highlighting February, or “Love month,” coming up and I thought this email thread below would fit perfectly. It was sent to me by a participant in the Sex, Intimacy and Staying in Love tele-seminar and I think it is inspiring as well as being the very best kind of commercial for what we do here at the Handel Group every day.

Sent: Thursday, January 08, 2009 2:10 PM 
To: laurie gerber; Lee Mitchell 
Subject: Be proud...you are enriching my life!!!!

Jan 7th update for SIS, I wanted to put this in writing;

Scott and I were at the therapist's office Tuesday where Scott said some things that I want to pass on to you both in writing so you can see and really believe the work you are doing is working and of great value.

The reason it is so significant is that it was unsolicited and he initiated the session, which is not usual...and he went on and on almost raving with praise

He said that I have really changed since I have been working with Handel for the last 5 months. He said that he doesn't walk on eggshells anymore, that I have more aware of my behavior and when I am irritable, short or unreasonable, I catch myself within minutes and acknowledge that I was out of line. He said that I am consistent, emotionally trustworthy, more empathetic with him and others and that I am judging and criticizing others less.

He said that he is able to feel vulnerable when he is with me and is comfortable being honest without the fear that I would attack him for giving me the wrong answer to make me mad and irritated. He said that he is able to relax and be more comfortable with me, not withdraw when we are together. He said he has never been able to really relax and be honest. I said never??? He said never!

He sees how much happier I appear as a result of working with Handel. He said that it is rubbing off on him and that he is feeling better about himself too. He is making many small changes too by getting things done as they need to get done, so he feels less overwhelmed. He said has more energy and feels more self-confidence.

Those were my two biggest complaints; because of his low energy, I felt like I was dragging a bag of rocks through my life...and he lived like his world would fall apart at the drop of a hat. When you guys told me to I to listen to him with my heart and to listen without trying to make him feel better but acknowledging his feelings as valid. I stopped trying to protect him and now he doesn't need it. He used to drive me crazy because he often repeated himself 3 times

He also said that at first he was suspicious, non-trusting and concerned that one day I would just stop, but he is believing that these are becoming new habits...so here here..you guys...be proud…I am!!!

On Jan 8, 2009, at 2:51 PM, Laurie Gerber wrote:

HOLY MOLY girl!1 you should be so proud of yourself. This demonstrates the best of what is possible: You demonstrating personal integrity (making yourself proud with repetitive right actions) and it rubbing off on him! What could be better? These acknowledgements really speak to so many of your concerns and goals and to so much of what we want for people. Congrats on being an amazing leader of healing and change.

Can I share his comments in our testimonials?


Sent: Thursday, January 08, 2009 4:14 PM 
To: Laurie Gerber
 Subject: Re: Be proud...you are enriching my life!!!!

Please!! This is only what Scott said. Here's part of what I have to say:

The Handel methodology of transformation is genius. You guys are a dream come true for me. If you combine all the therapy, self-help programs and spiritual paths I have been on over the past 30 years and put it on crack there Handel stands. The simple tools you provide combined with firm no nonsense coaching works: responsibility, commitment, honesty, and accountability. They are adding up to a new level of integrity for me. I feel it in my core.

Laurie, you have coached me with straight-forward, concise and incisive wisdom. You are tough, you are confident and you take risks. Your words are delivered from a place of love and I am able to receive my "tough truths" knowing they are coming from a sensitive and compassionate heart. I feel it, so I don't waste time fighting it. I trust you, I trust the process and we are kicking ass!!!

Well, there you go, it certainly made ME feel good! If you are interested in the Sex, Intimacy and Staying in Love Course, check our schedule for the next dates.

All the best,

Laurie