When a great new opportunity comes across your desk, is your first thought:
Or is it:
“How could I make THAT happen?”
Upon reflection, I am sad to find my mind usually tells me, and everyone else “no” in response to anything new, at first. Sure if the idea is about where to make dinner reservations, no problem, I know how to do that. But, if it is more complex, like striking a partnership with another large organization, my mind says: nope. If I can’t figure out “how” quickly and easily, I want it to just go away, until I can. Nobody likes to be out of control even when it seems like what’s coming is a bunch of good things. I take my “no” to actually mean “stop world, I want to control this.”
But, we know from all the manifesting masters that it is not our job to figure out the HOW of getting to our dreams, but rather to just fixate on what it will feel like to be there. Oh, but that is just too vulnerable, and too outside the box I/you normally live in. You have to just risk it, and dare to dream. (Oh and then there is some deep work you could do on your family lineage and past baggage that we find really helps too, but we’ll talk about that later and in the Advanced Design Your Life Weekend.) By nature, the practice of following your dreams and bringing them to fruition demands you use your imagination, and literally think what you have not thunk before.
Here is the process I recommend to break how-aholism:
1) Say “YES” in your mind.
When a new opportunity crosses your path, first say, “yes” to yourself.
2) Imagine what it would be like to have the result unfold for you.
How would it feel, taste, smell, look? Create a nice juicy sense of it; write it down.
3) Imagine as many possible “hows” as you can.
Be creative and imaginative; you are pumping up your believing juices. List more than three different ways it could unfold. What are all the scenarios, from the mundane to wild, that could play out to take you from here to your dream? Maybe a superhero lands in your backyard and takes over. Who knows! Maybe a mere mortal provides an unexpected solution. Or maybe you just work hard and plug along. Please, be creative, practical, outlandish, etc. Remember to have fun!
4) Examine your Personal Integrity®.
If you aren’t feeling like you have the power to cause something new and better in your life, start by looking at the daily things you choose to do, or not do, that make you feel less than proud. Make a public promise to end behaviors that make you feel ashamed.
5) Figure out to whom you need to talk.
Your new opportunity will feel more real when you start talking to other people about it. But choose carefully. And, don’t tell me you don’t know who will be supportive and who won’t be. Of course you know! If you choose unsupportive people, trust me, that’s your inner-chicken trying to sabotage the thing. Cut it out! Go find the people you are supposed to connect with for this opportunity and go find your cheerleaders and keep talking ’til the “how” starts to unfold with a beautiful magical mind of its own. Now repeat (back to Step 1).
I love seeing dreams come true. The Design Your Life Weekend was a weekend I invented years ago to launch people into designing their lives. Once conducted in my living room, now they have more than 30 people each time. Missing that small workshop experience, I now lead the Advanced Design Your Life Weekend. It’s very limited in size and back in my living room. This intimate coaching weekend is for people who have worked the Handel Method® by doing the Design Your Life Weekend or six months of coaching and are ready for a serious push. If you understand the concept of manifesting, but there are deep-rooted negative beliefs still in your way (as a result of your past, your parents, your lineage) and if you are ready to do the work of real healing that makes manifesting ever more possible, then this is the course for you!
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