Ever find yourself talking about your life as if you have no say over it?  Especially in an area in which you are not particularly proud? Whether it’s your job, your home life, your finances, your (and my) aging body, etc., we speak about ourselves and our lives like we’re reporting on the weather. We […]

Barring physical ailments, getting fired, being left, getting cheated on, raising teens, quitting carbs, (and whatever else is on your what’s worse-list), a flat tire at least earns a spot on the “can ruin a day” list, right? For the action-oriented, results-driven species we are, a flat tire means something dreadful. We not only have […]

Allow me to blow my own horn. I’ve acted as Co-President and President of HG Life for 12 years. In that time, I’ve coached thousands individuals and couples. I’ve had six-figure sales years. I’ve been quoted in dozens of articles and appeared on TV. I know I’ve fixed hundreds of lives and changed toxic relationships […]

Did you just balk at that title? I know—it’s not politically correct. But I think it’s a brilliant question to ask one another. Look, I get it. The truth (telling it and hearing it) makes us jittery. But when we keep everything nonconfrontational and PC, we end up unconsciously stepping over every which way we […]

Whether you are white, black, brown, yellow, tall, short, fat, thin, gay, straight, blonde, brunette, male, or female, you are in some way, shape or form discussing or dealing with diversity and inclusion. Schools are ramping up programs to address it.  Corporate America has expanded the c-suite to act on it. Police and military recognize […]

I grew up as the oldest of four siblings with a dad who LOVED sports. He watched all the games. From the Yankees to the Giants to the Rangers to golf. You name it, he watched it, LOUDLY. Did I like sports? Not so much. Sure, I played sports in high school but the whole […]

With less than two months left in the year, I’m sure many of you are looking ahead to 2017 to see what you can do to improve your company’s sales, overall productivity and get the best out of your direct reports in the coming year. If you are serious about these goals, then most likely, […]

Are some of the people that report to you less than impressive? Sure, some are great. Rockstars, even. They’re ambitious, consistent, collaborative, result-producers. The CEO loves them and you wish everyone else on your team was like them. Hell, they even remind you of you. You are proud of them. After all, they are your […]

We’ve all been there – in a situation where somebody annoys the crap out of us and that little voice in our head goes off. Are you freakin’ kidding me? Can you believe what she just did to me? What is this person thinking?! Hell, sometimes, we even say that stuff out loud. I find […]

We all have negative traits that come out under certain circumstances at work. Whether it’s when we’re stressed, worried, overwhelmed, or, the new age old favorite, when Mercury is in retrograde. Right? Except, no matter what, no matter how warranted it feels in the moment, our bad behaviors never leave us proud of ourselves. Righteous? […]

If you’ve been working your tail off at your job and are annoyed that you haven’t been promoted yet, you may be one of the following types of people: 1) THE SPECIALIST You are really great at your job and it’s your secret sauce. It’s frightening when you call in sick. You made yourself too […]

Why do some of our most coveted goals go unattained, or appear perpetually derailed by corporate bureaucracy? According to conventional wisdom, we achieve the results we want by executing effectively. But what happens when our best attempts at execution run into common obstacles including resistant team members, inefficiencies, shrinking budgets, or impatient shareholders? At Handel […]